Do You Need Encouragement Today?

Sometimes I feel so alone.

I know that I’m not, but the times (like now) where my chef/husband has been working long hours for many days in a row are so hard for me.  I miss him, I’m emotionally drained from taking care of the girls all day long, and I know I’ll wake up tomorrow and it will be the same.

I’m grateful to have this blog as out outlet to share what I’m going through.  But sometimes it feels like I’m typing to the air.  🙂  No matter how great technology is, it just can’t replace a real live person.

A few weeks ago, I was leaving church and was stopped by a friend.  We talked about the girls for a bit and then she placed her hand on my arm and said, “Jennifer, I want you to know I’ve been praying for you.”  She then went on to tell me specifically what she’d been praying for.

She didn’t know what had been going on in our home as a couple, with our children or with my husband’s job.  However, the things she had been praying specifically for our family were exactly what we (and I) have been struggling with. (more…)

Random Thoughts for a Late Saturday Evening

Things going through the mind of a 39 year old chef’s wife on a Saturday night . . .

  • It’s Saturday night and my husband is home (asleep on the couch across the room from me.)  Having him home on a Saturday makes me question what day it is as it rarely happens.  I just looked at the calendar.  Yes.  It’s Saturday.
  • Why is it raining on the last weekend of summer vacation?
  • School starts in 3 days.  I’m not ready to have my kids and husband on opposite schedules again.  I wonder if his new position at work will change his days off at all?
  • How is it that my chef/husband can fall asleep in the living room with the chaos of 3 children all around him?  Oh right, he worked about 60 hours in the past 4 days.
  • I wish it would stop raining.
  • It looks like we will be able to go to church as a family tomorrow morning.  I hope no one wakes up sick in the morning . . .
  • I turn 40 in 4 days.  How is that possible?
  • I wonder what I should make for breakfast tomorrow morning.
  • What will it be like to have all 3 girls in school for at least part of the day?  Will I cry when I put our youngest on the bus on Friday?
  • Why is it still raining . . . seriously?
  • I probably should try to wake my chef/husband up sometime soon and have him move into the bedroom to sleep.


A Day in the Life of a Chef Wife – August 2014

Every month on the 10th day, I grab my camera and capture my day with 10 pictures.

Today was not my typical day.  Why?  Because my husband was off!  Woohoo!!  We were able to spend the day together as a family and he’s actually in a few of the pictures this month!  AMAZING!!

Our morning started off a bit different.  We woke up and it was just my chef/husband and I in the house!  The girls spent the night at my aunt’s house so we could go out on a date last night.  (A Saturday night . . . that was strange . . . new job . . . hmmmm.)  So morning coffee in a quiet house.  How lovely!

morning coffee (more…)

A Day in the Life of a Chef’s Wife – July 2014

Every month on the 10th day, I grab my camera and capture my day with 10 pictures.

My life as a chef’s wife is not glamorous, as you can see.  And yet again, my chef/husband is no where to be found in the pictures as he left the house at 6:30 am and got home at 11:30 pm.  Just a nice short day of work for him.  🙁

There are many days I feel guilty about the things I get to do while my chef/husband is at work ALL DAY AND NIGHT!!  This was one of those days.  While it was not perfect and there were times of frustration with the girls, I was able to relax and enjoy time with our kids and with friends.  I’ve mentioned this many times to my chef/husband . . . that I feel bad that he works so hard and I get to have fun with the girls, and his response is always the same – that he wouldn’t want it any other way.  What an amazing man I married!  (But I still feel bad!)

So with that being said, here are 10 pictures that capture our day on July 10th.

I started off the day by checking on some new flowers my daughter had recently planted. (more…)

Going to Church Alone

OK, I admit, I didn’t really go to church alone this morning.  As I’ve said before, I’m rarely alone because we have 3 children.  What I mean is we went to church without my husband.

While there are many things the girls and I do without my husband (since he works many of the hours others are off), church is the hardest place to go without him.  It seems to go in phases.  He’ll be able to attend for many weeks/months in a row and then miss a few weeks/months in a row because of work.  Right now it seems to be more miss than hit.

I know chefs are not the only people who have to work on Sunday mornings.  I have friends who are married to police officers, fire fighters, doctors, nurses, or any profession that requires traveling, all of whom have probably felt the same way as I do at some point or another.

I was at first reluctant to write this post as I don’t want people to judge my husband, or draw any sort of conclusions about him.  However, if you met him and watched him as he interacted with our family, it wouldn’t take very long for you to see his love and dedication to both the Lord and to us.

So with that being said, here’s a glimpse into my evening last night and this morning.  This post is about me, not him.  It’s about my feelings and what I struggle with.  Please don’t judge.  🙂