Your chef/husband is changing jobs . . . again?
Why yes he is. Thanks for asking.
As I think about all of the things that I struggle with a a chef wife, my husband changing jobs is way up at the top of the list, but maybe not for the reason you might think.
Anyone else struggle with this? Or anyone have a chef/husband who has stayed in a position for a really long time? I would love to know.
From one chef wife to another,
I definitely had a hard time in the beginning with how often the job changes. I thought it was rude that he left so many restaurants for new ones. Now I know that that’s what happens. Still hard to explain to people tho- good luck with the new venture!!
So glad to hear I’m not the only one that feels this way. Thanks Krystal. 🙂
I struggle in general with telling other people about my husband’s job – those outside of the industry just don’t understand.
We’ve had several people tell us that he should change jobs to work less hours and spend more time with his wife, never really understanding that it’s part of the job.
I think one of the hardest things about being a chef wife is the loneliness you feel. Not so much that because your husband is gone but because other people don’t seem to understand how the restaurant world works.
We’ve had quite a few people ask if he’s ever thought of changing jobs as well. It wouldn’t just be a change in the job, it would have to be a change in careers. Thanks for mentioning that Sarah.
Thank you for sharing & for your honesty about the situation! My sister experienced something similar when her husband’s job was out-sourced & her chose to remain with Boeing even though it meant a janitor position at less than 1/2 his salary rather than taking a lay-off package. They prayed about it & decided it was more important to keep his foot in the door at Boeing with benefits, pension, & opportunity for rehire. She hated feeling like she had to constantly defend herself. It’s a good reminder for me just to “rejoice with those who rejoice” than to be critical or fail to think the best about a situation (which I’m sure I’m guilty of doing in the past…SORRY!) Personally, I can relate because people tell me I’m too busy all the time. But when I’m doing what I love & feel called to do, it’s motivating, not something I dread.
Thanks Teresa. I have in the past felt like I’ve had to defend my husband instead of be excited about the job as well. I also know that I often care too much about what others think and I need to work on that. 🙁
Paul and I watched this together. He has switched jobs several times. Sometimes a step up, sometimes a step down. The step ups were congratulated. The step downs were hard for me to explain and hard for people to understand. Heck, not sure I understand them either. I just try to be as supportive as I can.
Steps down are hard to explain, but in reality, we don’t really owe anyone an explanation. If it’s what we feel is best and we are OK with it, then that should be enough, right? (I’m not saying it’s easy or I’ve done this well in the past. I know I shouldn’t care, but don’t always do the best at that!) Hang in there with me!! We can do this! 🙂