Days of Emulsified Family . . . sounds like the name of a soap opera . . . Do you ever feel like you are living in one?
Wikipedia defines a soap opera as, “A serial drama and suspense on television or radio which features related story lines about the lives of multiple characters. The stories typically focus on emotional relationships to the point of melodrama.”
Why yes I do feel like I am living in a soap opera sometimes. Thanks for asking. Life just keeps going. My emotions are often like a roller coaster, going up and down, often having something to do with my husband’s career as a chef and how it’s impacting our family.
So “Days of our Emulsified Family,” is a perfect name for a support group for all of us chef wives and significant others.
(I can’t take credit for the name though. I hated the name “support group” and asked others in the group for suggestions. Claudia came up with this one and I thought it was perfect!!)
But why create a support group for chef wives and significant others if you already have a Facebook page, email and a comments section on your blog?
Good question. I’m glad you asked.
The main reason is because of the quantity of emails I receive from chef wives and girlfriends every week. For every comment you see on the blog, there are more emails in my In Box. I love it! I love that women (and men) are comfortable enough sharing their stories with me and asking for suggestions of if I have ever felt a certain way in a situation.
However, I am only one person. I haven’t lived through it all and can’t relate to it all. That’s what this group is for. Sometimes things are just too personal to post on a public Facebook page or in a blog comment. Sometimes you just want to ask a question to a group of women who can totally relate to your life, even though you’ve never met. That’s what the group is for.
Now I’m not the first one to create a group like this. There are other closed or secret Facebook groups out there. I am part of a few of them and enjoy them for different reasons. I went back and forth on whether or not to start a group because of this. But after Christmas and my inbox being flooded with emails, I decided it was time. Plus, it also gives me a place to ask questions as well. Just because I write about being married to a chef doesn’t mean I have it all figured out. Far from it!!
The Facebook group is closed, meaning only those in the group can see the posts AND it is only for chef wives and significant others. Chefs, you will have to get your own group. Sorry. 🙁
There are no restrictions on what you can ask in the group. Ask us anything. Chances are one of us can relate. My only request is that we keep the language rated “G”. 🙂
I look forward to getting to know you better as we chat about the “Days of our Emulsified Family.”
Click here to join!
Cue the cheesy soap opera music . . .
From one chef’s wife to another,
I’d like to join the Facebook.group. I’m dating a chef
Just approved your request! 🙂
I have been with my chef for eleven years now. Wow it feels like a roller coaster ride.
Roller coaster is a great way to describe it!
My husband can not even answer me if he wants coffee in the morning…..he is that out of it from his job. It is crazy
Hi. Ive just requested to join this group. Didnt know it existed until now. Sooo glad I may now get the support i need. Been dating my chef for two years n to top that off…its long distance. Help!
Great! So glad you found me!
I am now a part of the facebook family and already i feel at home. Thanks for making/organising this family
Hello, I couldn’t find the form attached in this blog post to fill out to join the facebook group (perhaps my internet is out of date). However, I did find the facebook group about 5 minutes ago and put in a request to join.
Received an email from you saying my question / concern about dating a chef would be better to post in the group.
Thank you for responding to my request so quickly. Look forward to being part of the group.
That link was to the group for you to request to join. 🙂 Looking forward to getting to know you!
I’ve been married to a chef for six years and am just finding out about this group. Very excited!
Looking forward to getting to know you!
Glad I found you. Looking forward to be part of a group of chef wives for a long time. This subject is not understood by everyone. Just requested to join.
I have been married to a chef for 24 years
Hi! I’m an expat chef wife living abroad in The Bahamas. We moved down for a brand new resort, that didn’t end up opening. After two years of a rollercoaster lifestyle(I stayed to pack house in NJ and lived in the Bahamas to continue my teaching career, while he worked at the private restaurant slated to open at the resort for a year back in another state), we have decided to move back to the states. But of course, it’s will continue to be a rollercoaster as he is leaving to train back in sates, while I finish teaching year and pack up the house with our 6 year old daughter. Sigh. It’s been so rough. I’ve held it together, but beginning to slowly fall apart. Realized I may need a chef wife/life community as I am more part of an expat community right now, and it’s more of a banking or construction expat community.
Hi I have been dating a chef for 8 years and we have recently got engaged. Would love to join the group! Glad to see I am not alone.
Hi, I have clicked to join your Facebook group, but can’t see the form to fill in on the website? It would be great to join a group of similar spouses married to chefs. Been with mine 15 years now (Married for 9 months) and it’s hard to try and explain to other friends / family members just how socially difficult a profession it is to married into… it really does define your life.
Anyway, I hope you click OK on my Facebook request
AHHH!! The form disappeared! Thank you so much for saying that so I knew. I fixed it and approved you to join the group! Welcome!
Hi Jennifer! Hi chef wives! I’ve been married to my chef hubby for 8 years and we have 3 kids. A 7 year old girl and 4 year old boy / girl twins. Hubby is opening a new restaurant and we never see him. I feel like it’s all on my shoulders! I’ve just started a local chef wives Facebook group in Miami but please add me to yours! 🙂
Hi Chelsea. So glad you have been able to find support locally! 🙂
Hello, I am
Wondering if this group is still going? Would love to join
It is!! https://www.facebook.com/groups/1586875798193404/
Morning. I’ve just found this page and so glad to know there are more people like me. I’ve requested to join the page on Facebook. Xx
Hello! I just approved your request. Looking forward to getting to know you in the group!
I started dating a chef about 3 months ago. He asked me to be his gf a little into a month of dating to which I happily said yes to. I knew his hours were completely off but since I work in a hospital, it worked out almost perfectly for both of us. However, as things progressed we both started getting comfortable in our normal routine. For him it was football nights with beer, or netflix and cuddle or brief meet ups for dinner or lunch. Now it’s gotten to, “Honey I am very tired and there are nights when I don’t feel like talking to anyone”. There are days when he does not reply to my msg for the whole day until the next morning. He tells me his line of work is challenging and to be understanding of the stressful situation he is in mentally and physically when he is at work. I have been understanding of his crabby mood when he does not have his morning coffee, but everything else has been incredibly hard. I have trying to not overthink but somedays it gets very lonely and I feel neglected. I know he cares about me and loves me because it shows when he is with me and I can feel it. But there are days when I feel very insecure. I don’t know if I am the only one feeling this way or it everyone else. I just don’t know how to cope with this situation and would love any advice that would help me get myself out of my mind.
i am getting off facebook. is there an internet page that is the equivalent?
There is not. Sorry. ❤️