Reflections on Being Married to a Chef or Dating a Chef on Valentine’s Day

It’s almost here.  The day we’ve all be waiting for.  The day we celebrate our love for each other . . . oh wait . . . the person we love is a chef and is working tomorrow night (and tonight and all the days around Valentine’s Day).

So what does Valentine’s Day mean to many chef wives and significant others?

A night alone.

Yep.  That pretty much sums it up.  It stinks.  I know. (more…)

When the Chef Brings Home Samples . . .

I’ll have to admit, one perk I love about being married to a chef is the random samples we get to enjoy as a family.  You know what I’m talking about.

Your chef walks in the door late one night after work with a box full of samples – bread, steak, seafood, forks, knives, napkins . . .

The funny thing about samples, is that the chef only needs a bite or two to tell if he likes something and wants to use it in the restaurant.  And what do you do when you have 10 different steaks to try and get only one of each?  You can’t sell them in the restaurant, obviously.  So you cook them and try them (and depending on the job, you can do this at home so your family gets to enjoy the samples.)


What is it Like to Date a Corporate Chef?

Today as we are getting close to the end of this series, we’re moving up to the position of Corporate Chef.  Today, chef girlfriend Jocelyn Dewitt is sharing her story with us!

Tell me a little about yourself and your chef (how you met, how long you’ve been together, do you have kids, etc.)

My chefs name is David! We actually met each other in culinary school. We were in the same class and thought we would make good competition partners so we completed at local food shows and proceeded to compete in a regional hot food competition were we won fourth in the northwest region!!! Both of us love to cook so it made it easy for us to understand each others dedication in the kitchen and to the restaurant life. We have been dating for 9.5 years now, no ring just good ol fashion commitment, hopefully one day soon there will be a ring! We have 4 kids. A son River 5 years old, a daughter Quinn 3 years old, Daughter Ember 1 years old and a daughter Frankie 2 months old.

What position does your chef/cook have in the kitchen?  Briefly describe the size and type of restaurant he is working at (fine dining/casual, size, privately onwned or part of a restaurant group, etc.).

David is currently a Corporate Chef for Twigs. Twigs has 9 locations all owned by a father and son so privately owned. They are a casual/upscale restaurant with each location having an average of 250 seats. Twigs is an upscale bistro and martini bar  that features local ingredients, fresh sheets and craft martinis. Because they are privately owned they get to do a lot of charity events for the community which is a a great plus! (more…)

What is it Like to Date an Executive Chef/Food and Beverage Director?

Over the past months, we’ve heard from different chef wives about what it’s like to be married to or dating a chef in a specific position on the kitchen.  Today, I’d like to introduce you to chef girlfriend Danielle Valenilla.  She is dating and Executive Chef/Food and Beverage Director.

Tell me a little about yourself and your chef (how you met, how long you’ve been together, do you have kids, etc.)

My chef and I have been together for about 18 months, but we’ve known each other for about 13 years. We met on the school bus when we both lived in a small town. I was in 8th grade; he was a sophomore. We stayed in touch throughout high school and college despite the crazy hours; we had the kind of friendship that could be successful without seeing each other constantly. After years of bumping into each other and looking for love in the wrong places, we found it in our friendship. I had an extra ticket to a Broadway show and his schedule aligned just right for that to become the beginning of us as a couple and not just friends. Our dating life basically existed in a one day a week kind of thing but our foundation of friendship went far. We’ve lived together for a year, and it’s been amazing. We don’t have kids, and we’re pretty sure we won’t because of some of the goals we have for ourselves. I’m on a journey to get my doctorate, and he’s driven to make his kitchen the best it can be. (more…)

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