“What is it like to cook for a chef?” Depending on who you ask, you’ll get very different answers.
If you ask one my friends, they will tell you they are very nervous to cook for my chef/husband.
If you ask the parent or sibling of a chef, I don’t think they would think much of it since they’ve always done it Although they might ask a question or two if the chef is around when they are cooking. (Please correct me if I’m wrong.)
If you ask an aspiring line cook what it’s like to cook for an Executive Chef in an interview, they’ll probably tell you they were very nervous because they wanted to do well and get the job.
But what about the wife or girlfriend or a chef? (Or husband/boyfriend . . . you know I never want to leave you out, it’s just awkward to always say all types of people in one sentence.)
I do the majority of cooking at home since I’m married to a chef. Most of the time it’s because he’s not home. But what about the times he is home? What is it like to cook for him?
Let’s answer a question with some questions, shall we? Let’s look at what it’s like when I DO cook for him.
Does he critique your cooking?
Yes. Not every meal, but if he thinks there is something I could have done differently, either with the preparation method or flavor, he will make a suggestion. He always does it in a kind way and sometimes I end up laughing as I watch him figure out how to say it nicely so it doesn’t hurt my feelings. It’s not a job interview. It’s just dinner.
Do you get nervous if he’s watching you cook?
Honestly, he rarely watches me cook. If I’m cooking and he’s around, he usually ends up just coming up and taking over. I’m totally fine with this. He’s obviously a much better cook than I am.
However, when he is watching me, occasionally I’ll get comments like, “Do you need help over there?” This usually means he’s concerned about my safety or he can tell that I’m frustrated.
But no, I don’t get nervous.
What happens if you really mess up the meal?
He can fix it!! He’s a chef, remember.
This came in very handy when I used the wrong wine last Thanksgiving to braise the dark meat of our turkey. More on that another time. It’s still too painful to think about . . .
Have you ever made something your chef/husband refused to eat?
Yes. But only one time in 19 years. I think that’s pretty good. It was meatloaf and it was horrible. The girls and I still ate it (because I’m cheap and didn’t want to throw it away). I think he made Top Ramen instead. (Big surprise!)
With all that being said, I usually don’t think about the fact that I’m cooking for a professional chef. It’s really not a big deal. I’m not trying to get a job in his restaurant or impress him. I’m just thinking about getting food on the table for our family to eat. (Although I do love being able to text him a question when I’m making dinner. That’s a very nice perk of being married to a chef.)
What about you? Have you ever been nervous to cook for your chef? Leave a comment below and let me know!
From one chef’s wife to another,