Just stating the obvious here, right?
However, if we’re being totally honest here, they do actually come home and sleep and rest at some point.
The problem is, this time they are home to sleep and rest is usually when we are at work.
WORKING OPPOSITE SCHEDULES AS YOUR CHEF/HUSBAND OR CHEF/BOYFRIEND STINKS!!!
There is really nothing positive to say about it. (Except maybe that week night dates are great because places are less crowded!!!)
Before we had kids, I worked full time as an elementary school teacher. I left for work around 7:30 am and got home around dinner time (or later some days). For many of those years, my chef/husband was working from 1 pm – 2 am with a half hour commute each way. So I would leave for work when he was still sleeping or just getting up and he would come home when I was sleeping. Not exactly ideal!!
Being home, night after night by myself was very lonely (OK it still is, even with 3 kids at home with me.)
Eating by yourself (and cooking for yourself) gets old really fast!
It’s hard to find time to talk, let alone go out on a date together!
At times it really felt like we were living separate lives.
So what’s the answer? How do we get past this different schedule thing as a couple?
I wish I had a magical answer for you today. I really wish I did.
But I don’t.
It just stinks!!
If you work a 9-5 job and are married to or dating a chef, I’m sorry. I feel your pain. I really do! I’ve lived it for many years.
I wish I could change it somehow, for you and I both. But I can’t.
Chef’s need to work with others need to eat. I get that. If people would just stop eating dinner . . .
Over the years, my chef/husband and I have fit in many lunch dates (and my lunch as a teacher was only 45 minutes long so that didn’t give us much time to go out somewhere).
Sometimes he would get up early so we could have breakfast together and then go back to sleep after I left.
We really cherished our mutual day off (Sunday) and made sure not to fill it too full so we could enjoy spending time together.
I know it’s hard. I’m sorry! If you want to send me an email to vent, feel free! I know most people don’t really understand how hard it is because they haven’t lived it. But I can relate! I feel your pain!
Sometimes you just want to scream! (At least I have!) Hang in there!!!!
From one chefwife to another,