For the majority of the time my chef/husband has worked in a professional kitchen, he’s worked on the weekends. With some jobs he has had Sunday off or at least Sunday morning off so he could go to church. But other than that, if it was a Friday, Saturday or Sunday, he was at work. No questions asked.
I used to really struggle with my chef/husband having weekdays off.
- When I worked full time, there was not one entire day when we were both off.
- Friday and Saturdays were supposed to be date nights, right? Not Monday or Tuesday. After all, that’s when all my friends were going out!
- Events with family and friends were always on the weekend, which meant I was going to them alone.
- Getting together with friends was difficult because having someone over for dinner on a Monday or Tuesday, when they worked a traditional schedule, isn’t always possible.
Over the years, I eventually got used to it and didn’t mind it any more. I wish I had some great piece of advice to give you if you are struggling with this. But really, it’s just best to embrace it and make the best of it.
Because guess what?????? Having my chef off on the weekend isn’t AT ALL what I thought it would be.
A few months ago my husband moved into a corporate position and many of the things I knew to be true as a chef wife changed.
Who knows how long it will be for, but for now with my husband’s current job, he’s off on weekends.
So this is what it feels like to have “normal” days off.
Now wait! Before you start to get jealous . . . I’ll be honest with you, it’s not exactly what I thought it would be.
- It’s great that he’s off when the kids are off. That is WONDERFUL! (But now he no longer has any downtime for himself, which I know is hard for him as an introvert.)
- Having 2 days off together is really nice. This gives him a chance to get caught up on sleep and we still get to spend time with him.
- However, EVERYTHING is so crowded on the weekends. What in the world?? Who wants to be in the middle of downtown Seattle when it’s so crowded you can hardly walk? NOT US!!
- We are used to doing things on weekdays. It’s never crowded anywhere! Going out to lunch, a movie, the mall, downtown Seattle, etc. None of those things are very crowded on weekdays (with the exception of downtown – but it’s not busy in the tourist places, just people working.) But on a Saturday? It’s horrible!! We hate crowds! So while we are glad to have the time together as a family, we need to find things to do with less people around. Ugh!! (Or just take the kids out of school for a day and do something like we used to do.)
So many times we think the “grass is greener on the other side.” But in this case, I’m not sure that it is.
Do you struggle with your chef having weekdays off? How have you dealt with that over the years? Let me know in the comments.
From one chef wife to another,