My name is Jennifer and I have been married to a chef for 21 years.
I blog about my life as a chef wife and how we combine restaurant and family life each day.
If you are new to my site, start here.
I wrote the post below back in July, but never published it. Tonight I’m sitting on the bed, wishing my husband was home with us. It’s Cinco de Mayo – the busiest night of the year for his restaurants. We haven’t seen him all week and we miss him. I’m tired. The kids have been arguing while making Mother’s Day cards. (Really?????? I don’t want have to discipline for that!! Ugh!! I really wish he were here to deal with the Mother’s Day card arguing…)
Have you ever referred to yourself as a single parent because of your husband’s career as a chef?
They work a ton of hours. They are gone the majority if not all of the hours the kids are awake. Because of this, the parenting on the days they work (and sometimes even on their days off) falls on us.
I get it.
I’m living it.
There are many days our girls do not see my husband because he leaves before or just as they are getting up and gets home just after they are in bed. Having a 1 hour + commute on top of the long hours of a chef is tough. My husband would have to leave work at 5 pm (and then sit in the car for 2 hours because of traffic) to be home to see them for an hour before they go to bed (which is not their best time of day). The mornings, it’s the same. If he doesn’t leave before 6 am, the commute can be almost 2 hours long. There’s really no option for a change of hours, so we find way to work with the schedule the best we can.
Has so much time ever gone by since you’ve tasted your chef’s cooking, that you actually forget how good it is? I mean, you know in your head that they cook really well, but since you RARELY get to eat it yourself, you just kind of forget . . . until they cook for you.
Oh my!! That was AMAZING!
I’ll have to admit, one perk I love about being married to a chef is the random samples we get to enjoy as a family. You know what I’m talking about.
Your chef walks in the door late one night after work with a box full of samples – bread, steak, seafood, forks, knives, napkins . . .
The funny thing about samples, is that the chef only needs a bite or two to tell if he likes something and wants to use it in the restaurant. And what do you do when you have 10 different steaks to try and get only one of each? You can’t sell them in the restaurant, obviously. So you cook them and try them (and depending on the job, you can do this at home so your family gets to enjoy the samples.)
It’s just blows my mind that it’s the end of the year already! It’s been a crazy year full of job changes and surgeries for the chef and of course everything that comes with those things around here at home!
As a blogger, it’s fun to look back at the posts I’ve written over the past year and see which ones were the most popular. This post about dating a chef (from 2014) still brings the most traffic to my site, along with this one on how to clean a chef coat.
AHHHHHHHH!!!!! I have no idea what to get my chef for Christmas!!!!
(My chef husband is asking for a peaceful and calm home and just wants to have fun as a family, no matter what we are doing. I’m not sure how I’m going to wrap that up or pull it off, but I guess I’ll get working on it.)
I’ve compiled a list of ideas from many of you in this post over here that you can take a peek at.
How many times have you grabbed a pan handle after your chef, only to burn yourself? For me, it’s too many times to count. You think I would have learned by now . . .