There are a lot of things I enjoy about being married to a chef . . . great food (when he’s home to cook), help with meal planning, having someone who can fix my mistakes in the kitchen (over the phone or via text), free samples that appear in our home from vendors, menu tastings at his restaurant, his creativity . . . the list could go on and on. A lot of the sterotypes we hear about being married to a chef ARE true, sometimes. Not as often as people think, but yes, occasionally they are true.
But just like everything, with the good comes the bad. Being married to a chef isn’t about enjoying 5 course meals every night. (And if you think it is, please stop reading this post and read this first.) In the 19 1/2 years we have been married, there have been a lot of things I have really struggled with as a result of my husband’s career.
Now don’t get me wrong, I love that he is a chef and know it’s the perfect job for him. But that doesn’t make it easy for either of us. We’ve had many discussions over the years of how hard it is to be a successful chef, husband and father all at the same time. He runs himself ragged doing just that and I am blessed to be married to him.
While it’s not easy for him to wear all 3 of those hats and to do them well, it’s just as hard for me at home. So for the next few weeks, I’m going to get very personal here on the blog.
It’s not easy to open up and share things that I really struggle with. But the more I get to know you, the more I know I am not alone.
Here’s a glimpse of some of the topics to come (in no particular order):
- Midweek days off
- Scheduling Dr. appointments, car appointments
- Anger and resentment
- Going places alone
- Working on holidays
- Long hours
- Unknown schedule
- Worrying about his safety
- How the job takes a toll on his body
- Sick kids
- Parenting responsibilities
- Working opposite hours
- Trouble sleeping
- Job changes
- Missing him A LOT
- Yard work
- How different our life is than other couples
A few days ago I asked what you struggled with as the wife or girlfriend of a chef in this Facebook post. If you have something to add, I’d love to know in that post or in the comments below.
From one chef’s wife to another,