Reflections on Being Married to a Chef or Dating a Chef on Valentine’s Day

It’s almost here.  The day we’ve all be waiting for.  The day we celebrate our love for each other . . . oh wait . . . the person we love is a chef and is working tomorrow night (and tonight and all the days around Valentine’s Day).

So what does Valentine’s Day mean to many chef wives and significant others?

A night alone.

Yep.  That pretty much sums it up.  It stinks.  I know. (more…)

Day 8 – Don’t Compare Your Family to Others (12 Days of Encouragement for the Chef’s Family)

One of the things I’ve always struggled with being married to a chef, is not comparing our relationship or our family to others, especially to those who have a more traditional work schedule (home in the evenings and on weekends.)

12 days of encouragement for the chefs familyQuick tangent on that . . . is there really a job that is 9-5 (or somewhere close) any more?  Out of all my friends, I only have a handful whose husbands work a traditional schedule like that.  All the others are working one or more jobs with different hours, just like my chef/husband. (Although maybe not quite as many hours.)  OK, tangent over.

Comparing ourselves to others will only make us frustrated and upset.  Really.  What good is it going to do you?  Social media makes it so easy to see what everyone is doing all the time!  (more…)

Day 2 – Social Media (12 Days of Encouragement for the Chef’s Family)

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It’s the most wonderful . . . and hardest time of the year for our Emulsified Family, as I’m sure it is for many of you.

12 days of encouragement for the chefs familyIf you struggle with loneliness this time of year, today, I’d like to challenge you to think about the time you spend on Social Media this holiday season.

WHAT!!!!

ARE YOU CRAZY????

HOW COULD I LIVE WITHOUT FACEBOOK?

I know that sounds funny coming from a blogger.  I get a lot of website traffic from Facebook.  But honestly, one of the hardest things for me during the Christmas season is seeing what everyone else is doing on Facebook.  (more…)

Day 1: Twelve Days of Encouragement for the Chef’s Family

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The holidays are a tough time for our Emulsified Family.

12 days of encouragement for the chefs familyBy the end of December, my chef/husband and I are usually just ready for Christmas and New Year’s Eve to be over.  I know that sounds horrible but December is a really hard month when you are married to a chef.

It’s 4-5 INSANE weeks of working way too many hours for my chef/husband.  We really don’t see him much at all during this time.  Because of this I struggle with loneliness, even with 3 kids.  I also feel bad that we are out doing fun Christmas things and my husband is slaving away at work to provide for us.  I could say more, but it would really just sound like complaining, so I’ll stop.

I thought maybe this year would be different, with him being the COO of a restaurant group and out of the kitchen, but the hours have still been crazy…including a restaurant opening.  I am thankful for his days off this month and don’t want to take them for granted, as I remember many years, he rarely had a day off in the month of December.

Since so many of you can relate to our family, I would guess that we are not alone in feeling this way each holiday season.

While in the past, I’ve dreaded the month of December as a chef’s wife, I’ve decided this Christmas season is going to be different.  No more moping around and wishing it was over for this chef’s wife and kids. (more…)

Raising a Family with a Chef – The Infant Phase

So you made it through pregnancy.  All your fears of your chef/husband not being able to make it to the hospital for the baby’s delivery were unnecessary as he was there in plenty of time. 🙂

But now you have this sweet little baby and your chef/husband is back to work, working a billion hours a week (OK, not that many, but it sure seems like it).  You’re exhausted, overwhelmed, lonely and some days really, really, really, wish you had another adult to talk to.  Raising a family with a chef isn’t easy.

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