Sometimes Life Gets in the Way of What you Want to Do

If someone were to ask me what I enjoy doing in my free time, I would tell them about this blog and how I love to connect with other chef wives and significant others.

But I’ll be honest, there have been a few times this past year where I’ve been too focused on and not focused enough on my home and family.  I’ve struggled with the desire to do what I want to do instead what I need to do.  I know I’m not alone in this as there are many bloggers who write about the struggle of finding the balance of home life and working from home (although I don’t think I can call this a job since I don’t really make any money . . . but you know what I mean.)

Many nights there have been things around the house left undone because I’ve chosen to write or do something behind the scenes on the blog instead of taking care of things around the house that I needed to do (making the next day and days following more difficult not only for myself but for my kids and chef/husband.)  That doesn’t happen all the time, but I’ll admit it’s happened more than I would like.

Sometimes life gets in the way of what you want to do for fun (and in my case, this blog).  And sometimes there’s a really big problem or event that God uses as a wake up call to get you back in focus.

Welcome to my life the past couple weeks.

I don't have time for a cute pinterest graphic

Sometimes life gets in the way of what you want to do as a blogger. But that’s OK. Living life is more important than writing about it!

As a blogger, sharing about the life of my family as we try and combine restaurant and family life, I want to be as open and transparent as possible.  I share a lot of personal things that go on in our family, but honestly, there are some things that are just too personal to put up on the internet for the world to see.  It’s not that I want to hide them, but out of respect to my family, some things just need to be between us and a few family members and friends.

This has been a rough few weeks (well, honestly, a rough year and a half or so, but I think the worst of it was a couple weeks ago (hopefully).)  I’m sure there will be a time when I’m ready to write more, but for now, let’s just say it’s been a time for me to really look at what’s important in my life, what I really need to be focusing on (God, my husband and my kids) and it’s been pretty uncomfortable for me as I look at some ways I’ve really messed up as a wife and mom.

I’m not quitting on you as a writer, if that’s where you’re thinking this is going.  You might not even notice anything different on the blog.  But what it means for me is that for right now, there is no set calendar of blog posts.  Social media posting might be more sporadic instead of being scheduled consistently.  Blog posts might not be configured perfectly for SEO or Pinterest and my newsletter might skip a week (as you might have noticed this past week).  The large checklist I need to be doing for my blog posts after I write them might not get done.  Not as many people might see what I write and the blog might not grow as fast as I want it to.  But my family has to come first.  Life is more important than this blog.  After all, if I’m not living life in the moment, how can I write about it?

So that’s it for this lovely Monday morning.  We are just getting back from a pretty amazing weekend away as a family (which we REALLY needed.)  But now it’s back to reality and my chef/husband is already on his way to work, the kids are going back to school, and I will be trying to get caught up here around the house after having the kids home all week on mid-winter break.

Normally at this point I’d change the font size and ask a question, hoping you’ll comment below.  But no question for now.  If you want to comment, you know where to do so below.  Thanks for reading.  Have a great week!

From one chef’s wife to another,




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  1. Alicia

    Thanks for sharing. I understand completely. We’ve had a rough year as well after my father and then my nephew passed and that coupled with crazy long hours by my chef husband is so tough. Working at home, work is often my escape. I’ve really scaled back as well to focus on the family and I can feel the benefits. All the best to you!

  2. Rachel :: CanDo Kiddo

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for putting words to what I’ve been feeling lately. In a nutshell, out of balance. Hope things get better for you! (love the pinterest graphic, by the way – completely click-worthy for me)

    • Jennifer

      Thanks Rachel. I’m sure we are not alone in feeling this way! 🙁 (And thanks for the compliment on the graphic!)


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