In case you haven’t noticed, the traditional school schedule TOTALLY CLASHES with the schedule of a chef. Many chefs have only week days off, leaving no day open for family time, since the kids are in school.
The transition from having preschoolers at home to having elementary aged kids who go to school from 9-3 every day was a tough one for our family (as I’m sure it has been for many of your families as well).
I was a bit overwhelmed after reading Kathryn’s story last week about her chef working full time AND going to school. But I know many of you can relate.
Chef Fiancée Antonisha Polite can relate and is writing her story for us today. (And can I just say that I’m so sorry Antonisha that you have to wash 2 sets of chef clothes!! Yuck!!!!)
My name is Antonisha Polite, I am 28 years old and I am engaged to and living with chef. I work full time as an Internet Sales Specialist for a car dealership while getting my degree in Elementary Education. My chef is currently a head line cook for a major hotel. He is also finishing his culinary degree and is in the process of starting a catering business. I have a 4 year old son from a previous relationship that thinks chef is his super hero.
We met while I was working in the banquets and catering department at the hotel where he currently works. We were both coming out of relationships and could relate to a lot of things. We became friends at work and I left the job soon after. We stayed in touch through social media and after we both finalized everything with previous relationships, we started hanging out together and here we are now planning a wedding.
This is by far the hardest post and most personal topic I’ve ever blogged about.
You see, our home was a pretty miserable place to be for a few years. My chef/husband and I had many conversations about it, but never really knew the exact problem and because of that, didn’t know how to fix it.
Then one day I figured it out. It was of course during one of the hardest weeks I’ve ever had as a parent. But sometimes it takes a really difficult situation to get me to wake up and figure things out.
I wish there was a way to go back in time and tell my younger self what I learned. I would have been a different parent early on.
I’ll be honest. I have no idea what it’s like to date or be married to someone in culinary school, as my chef/husband never went to culinary school.
So when a fellow chef/girlfriend, offered to share her story, of course I said yes!
Today, I’d like to introduce you to Kathryn. Her boyfriend is going to Culinary School AND working as a Line Cook at the same time. I know there are others of you that can relate to her story! I’m sure she’d love to hear from you in the comments after you read it!
I moved to Michigan in August 2011 for grad school. I was really lonely because I was all alone in a new state, so a former college roommate of mine came to visit me for the weekend a couple of weeks after I’d moved in. We were listening to music when we heard a knock at the door from the guy who lived in the apartment directly below mine. He invited us over to his apartment, where he and his roommate were hanging out and playing video games. Tuesday of that week, I went out with the guy who had knocked on my door, and we have been together since.
I’ve been thinking for a while about what I wanted to write about being married to a chef to post today, our 20th wedding anniversary.
I thought of a couple ways I could spin it, add some key words to get more views to the blog, etc. but it just didn’t seem right. So I decided not to write anything and just take a break from the blog for a week.
(Yet, here I am . . . lol.)
Below is a post I wrote on our family blog. It’s written a bit differently, as I didn’t write it with you, my fellow chef wife or significant other in mind, like I usually do when I write. But instead, I wrote it for our family as part of my digital scrapbook/blog of memories.
Chef Wife, Mother of 3 and the Blogger behind EmulsifiedFamily.com.
