While my chef/husband and I have struggled with miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy, we have never dealt with infertility. Knowing how much I struggle with loneliness because of the hours my chef/husband works, I can’t even begin to imagine how hard this must be for many chefs and their wives. I often wonder if I’m hurting someone when I write posts about my children and the struggles of raising children with a chef. I know that my struggles could be someone else’s dream.
I could write a post on a subject I really know nothing about, or I could ask someone for help . . . someone who has lived it. I’ve asked my sweet cousin Leanne if she would let me ask her a few questions about her and her husband’s struggle with infertility. While her husband is not a chef, she knows me well enough and has been to enough family functions over the years that my husband has missed because of work, that she has a pretty good idea of what our lives are like as chef wives. I am so grateful for her willingness to share with us today!
Have you ever noticed that many people have gone through the same struggles as you have, but you never knew it until you started to talk about it? This happens to me all the time.
I had no idea how many women had miscarriages until I had one.
I know now that many women have miscarriages, but my Mom had 14. Yes you read that right. 14. I am an only child and she was on bed rest the majority of her pregnancy with me. I am like my Mom in many ways, but would this be one way I was like her as well? I of course had no way of knowing. So as we started to pray for our unborn child, we prayed that if it was God’s will, I would carry him/her full term.(more…)
What’s it like to be married to a chef? Here are some answers to the questions you have asked or have always wanted to ask, but never had the courage to!
Does a chef cook at home?
When he is home, yes he does. The key part of that phrase is “when he is home.” His cooking is better than mine, plus I think it’s easier for him to work in the kitchen than to figure out how to floss a 4 year old’s teeth. 🙂 I do cook occasionally, but he usually ends up stepping in and taking over (which I prefer.) I don’t expect him to cook, he just does it. (See this post about his recent time at home and cooking and also this one on cooking for family and friends.)
My new friend Kerilyn over at MarriedtoaChef.com recently asked me what my mission and dream was for this blog. I figured after 6 months of blogging (where has that time gone?), I should look back at my original mission statement and make sure I was still on track.
My mission or goal for Emulsified Family is really two fold. #1 – To connect with others who are married to or dating a chef, a line cook, a general manager, etc. and to encourage them with the Word of God and through what He has taught me and continues to teach me on a daily basis. (And since we have kids, many of the posts will be about raising a family with a chef, because that’s my life and what I do all day long.) And #2 – To give a glimpse of how restaurant and family life come together to those in the “outside world” (aka not in the restaurant industry.) (more…)
I am not much of a reader. (Don’t tell any of my past students.) I love to read blogs, but do not reach out for books (or the Kindle app on my tablet) as often as I should.
So I have to be honest, I’m a bit surprised with myself that I’m writing about a book I read. Never thought that would happen . . .
However, when I discovered a new book written by another chef’s wife (who lives in Seattle of all places!!!!), how could I not read it?(more…)
