Putting the Long Hours of a Chef in Perspective

My cousin was 5 years old when we got married 18 years ago.  She was an adorable flower girl in our wedding.  Most of our lives we have lived a few states away from each other, but when we moved up to the Seattle area, I got to know her a little bit better.  She no longer lives nearby, but I think and pray for her often.

It’s usually on the days when I’m really lonely and struggling with the long hours of a chef that I think of her and pray for her.  Her husband is not a chef (although he cooks very well), but is deployed in the Army.  So while I sit at home, lonely and depressed about my husband who is working long hours an hour away from our house, I am reminded of her and many others, who have husbands on the other side of the world who will not be home for months. (more…)

What Chefs Really Eat at the End of the Day

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It’s common knowledge that chefs work long hours and are busy preparing food for others. There’s a ton of articles and TV shows telling us what chefs like to cook.

But are these meals that they “like” to prepare what they actually eat themselves?

At the end of a 12-16 hour day or a 70-80 hour work week, do they head into their kitchen at home and start making these meals they’ve told us about on TV and in magazines?

I wonder…

I am personally not a chef but am married to one. Obviously I can’t speak for all chefs in the world as I haven’t met them all. However, having been married to a chef for 18 years and having interacted with quite a few chefs and their wives/husbands and significant others, I think it’s time to be truthful about this topic and put an end to this myth about how chefs eat at home. (more…)

Do You Need Encouragement Today?

Sometimes I feel so alone.

I know that I’m not, but the times (like now) where my chef/husband has been working long hours for many days in a row are so hard for me.  I miss him, I’m emotionally drained from taking care of the girls all day long, and I know I’ll wake up tomorrow and it will be the same.

I’m grateful to have this blog as out outlet to share what I’m going through.  But sometimes it feels like I’m typing to the air.  🙂  No matter how great technology is, it just can’t replace a real live person.

A few weeks ago, I was leaving church and was stopped by a friend.  We talked about the girls for a bit and then she placed her hand on my arm and said, “Jennifer, I want you to know I’ve been praying for you.”  She then went on to tell me specifically what she’d been praying for.

She didn’t know what had been going on in our home as a couple, with our children or with my husband’s job.  However, the things she had been praying specifically for our family were exactly what we (and I) have been struggling with. (more…)

Suicide in the Culinary Industry…Thoughts from a Chef’s Wife

Waking up this morning to find out that Anthony Bourdain had committed suicide was a shock for all of us.  I can’t imagine the pain he must have been in to feel that suicide was the only option.

As an outsider, his life looked pretty great to most of us.  He was a successful chef, writer and TV show host.  He had a girlfriend and appeared happy in the relationship.  He was the father of a young daughter.  Media and Social Media made him appear so successful and happy.

Unfortunately, that was not the case.

It makes me question why suicide, mental health issues, drugs and alcohol are all such problems in the Culinary Industry. (more…)