The Lonely Chef Wife

My loneliness as a chef wife seems to come and go.

My chef/husband can work 80 hours one week and 80 hours the next, but one week I’m fine and the next I’m not.

Why is that?

Right now I’m sitting here in a quiet home with candles lit, looking at pictures from the day. (Ok, actually I’m typing this post right now.  But right before that, I was looking at pictures.)

It was a great day, full of projects and time with friends.  But through it all, and now in the peace and quiet, I think of my husband and miss him.  I wish my day had been full of time with him.  It’s been a long time since we’ve had an entire day together. (more…)

You’re Dating a Chef? Please Read This!

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If you just googled, “Dating a chef” and arrived here, welcome.  Welcome to this crazy life of being involved with someone in the culinary industry.

I would guess the reason you googled this topic is because dating a chef is not exactly what you expected it would be.  Perhaps you’re lonely, frustrated by the hours, struggling with finding time to spend together, or even time to talk.

Well guess what?



Don’t you feel so much better already?

There are tons of us out there, who are somehow connected to a chef . . . married, dating, parents, siblings, etc.

There are others out there who can relate to the crazy obsession with chef knivesthings for the kitchen and cookbooks.  Nice!! 🙂 (more…)

Suicide in the Culinary Industry…Thoughts from a Chef’s Wife

Waking up this morning to find out that Anthony Bourdain had committed suicide was a shock for all of us.  I can’t imagine the pain he must have been in to feel that suicide was the only option.

As an outsider, his life looked pretty great to most of us.  He was a successful chef, writer and TV show host.  He had a girlfriend and appeared happy in the relationship.  He was the father of a young daughter.  Media and Social Media made him appear so successful and happy.

Unfortunately, that was not the case.

It makes me question why suicide, mental health issues, drugs and alcohol are all such problems in the Culinary Industry. (more…)

Day 12 – Think About the Restaurant Customers (12 Days of Encouragement for the Chef’s Family)

To conclude this series, today let’s think about all the customers that are going into the restaurants our chefs are working in.

For me, I picture a large fine dining restaurant, where people are dressed up, ready to meet family and friends to celebrate Christmas or just to enjoy a nice meal in the midst of all the hussle and bussle.

(Although I have to be honest.  I am at the point where I have to ask my husband what restaurant he’s going to be at each day, because of transitioning into a new position at work.  But for the holidays, I picture him at my favorite one!)

While I might be out and about doing things with the kids (because remember, I refuse to sit and home and be lonely and miserable this time of year), someone is enjoying my chef/husband’s cooking. (more…)

What is it Like to date a Sous Chef/Kitchen Manager?

Today, I’d like to introduce you to Corrina Zieba.  She is dating a Sous Chef/Kitchen Manager.  It’s fascinating to me how all our stories are just a little different, but yet have so many similarities!

Tell me a little about yourself and your chef (how you met, how long you’ve been together, do you have kids, etc.)

My chef and I met online. He’s 25, I’ll be 24 in August. He went to school primarily for pastry. We’ve been dating for 7 months. We do not have any kids and live separately.

What position does your chef/cook have in the kitchen?  Briefly describe the size and type of restaurant he is working at (fine dining/casual, size, privately owned or part of a restaurant group, etc.).

My chef is a co-sous chef/kitchen manager. At this time there is no “technical” executive chef at his restaurant. His restaurant could easily seat 300 people at one time. It is a New American Restaurant, Bar & Hotel on the beach, not so casual, but not overly fancy either. It is privately owned, but the owners have two other restaurants that occasionally share employees in the off season and other restaurants in other states.